One of my favorite groups to rock out to during leg day is Beastie Boys. Without fail, their old school rhymes get me pumped every single time! There are so many good tunes on Licensed to Ill (ahem, Brass Monkey, Girls...I could go on), but I have to say my absolute favorite song by them is Sabotage. Nothing gets me revved up like Ad Rock screaming lyrics about how terrible it is to be sabotaged.
This song really gets me because this is a theme I hear all too often from people doing my programs. Sabotage. Inevitably, in every single session I have of Lift to Get Lean and even my VIP groups who have been at this for months, clients say their biggest stumbling blocks are with other people! And the insensitive and unhelpful things they say to my awesome rock stars who are simply trying to make better choices for themselves by eating healthier and exercising. Sometimes the comments are subtly demeaning, for example...
“Of course you’re eating salad again.”
“Well we all know you’re not going to have dessert.”
“Oh, look at Miss or Mr. Healthy over there.”
Then, of course, there are the food pushers who are overtly demeaning what you’re trying to do.
“C’mon, you have to eat these cookies. They are soooo delicious.”
“Just one slice of cake. A tiny piece of cake won’t hurt.”
“Everyone is having margaritas. You don’t want to be lame.”
I have heard it all! And, let me tell you, these types of comments say more about the insecurities of the person saying them than they do about you and your choices. It is something in their mentality that tells them, “if other people are succeeding, then I must be failing.” And you are NOT responsible for soothing their feelings of failure. You are not responsible for pleasing anyone else through what you are eating.
So I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kylie, what do we do in these types of situations? Help!” Well, don’t worry, I got your back. We literally go over weekend strategies, social situations, and going out to eat in the first week of my programs. I touch on how to combat the naysayers and then do several more in-depth talks about it throughout the program. I give you tips and strategies on how to navigate going out to eat, happy hour with coworkers, the break room, family parties, etc. Bottom line, I tell my clients to keep the focus on YOU and your goals. I’ll repeat...you do not need to please anyone else through your food choices. Period.
So you can take a cue from the Beastie Boys and yell in their faces. “So, so, so, so listen up 'cause you can't say nothin', You'll shut me down with a push of your button?” Or you can just politely but firmly decline anyone who is pushing food in your face. And know that anyone who is trying to make you feel guilty about being healthy, is most likely struggling with how they feel about themselves and their own health.
I’ll leave you with this thought...you gotta FIGHT...for your RIGHT...to be HEALTHY!
(And I know you can.)