As most of you know...I love television. Like LOVE love. And I really do feel that all of the answers to life’s biggest questions can be found in eighties and nineties television show theme songs. If you’re a person of a certain age, you know instantly what shows asked the real questions. Like “What would you do, baby, without us?” Or “What would you do if I sang out of tune? Would you stand up and walk out on me?”
Theme songs were literally the soundtrack of my life when I was kid. And one of my fave shows growing up was Diff’rent Strokes. I even did a Facebook video this week called “Different Strokes for Different Folks” and I wasn’t kidding when I said that I instantly had the theme song in my head. Today, I would like to talk about how different folks have different goals.
“Now the world don’t move to the beat of just one drum, so what is right for you may not be right for some.”
What is right for one of my participants in Lift to Get Lean may not be right for another. As I like to say in my groups, “comparison is the thief of joy.” I really want to stress how unproductive and defeating comparison is. What is progress for one person may not be progress for another and I really like to make sure each person is clear on what their individual goals are.
“Everybody’s got a special kind of story. Everybody finds a way to shine.”
Each person has their own story and their own set of unique circumstances. Some people really struggle with getting their veggies in. (Ahem, me.) So a great goal is to incorporate vegetables into each meal. Some people kick butt at eating their greens, but they are starting at ground zero when it comes to exercise, so thirty minute daily walks may be their target for activity. On the flip side, I have clients who struggle with over-exercising and taking rest days, so their goal is going to look totally different because they will need to focus on taking one rest day per week. People who tend to overeat or binge eat are going to have polar opposite goals than those who struggle with anorexia. A female athlete struggling with amenorrhea may have the goal of getting her cycle back, another client may want to get off their blood pressure meds. How toxic would it be for folks with such different life experiences to compare themselves with each other?!
“You have yours and I’ll have mine and together we’ll be fine.”
You are on your journey! Your goals are going to be based on your past, based on what you like and based on where you want your life to be. Everything is SO individual and I tailor my programs to cater to this. I will flat-out say that not everyone should be tracking macros. I will never give meal plans and tell anyone what they should and should not be eating. Some people hate kale. (Me again!) Some people love it. There is no magic food that gets everyone to the goal of healthy eating. Also, not everyone should be doing HIIT workouts. Especially those for whom regulating their hormones is a goal. For clients with injuries, there are certain strength training moves that would do more harm than good. This is why you need to focus on you and YOUR needs. The worst thing you can do when you are trying to reach your goals is compare yourself to somebody else, because...
“It takes different strokes to move the world!”
It really really does. Get clear on what moves you you! What fires you up! What keeps you adhering to healthy eating and exercising that is sustainable for the long haul. Focus on what YOU want and what YOU need. Then really go after that thing with all you got.
Yes, I wove the lyrics to the Diff’rent Strokes theme song into this blog. Yes, I did this to demonstrate that the theme songs of my youth are EVERYTHING. You are also EVERYTHING. And you deserve everything your heart desires!